Triggers for Self Reflection
This was the first chapter of the book “Money on Meaning: Why We Do What We Do” by Suresh Verghis and after iterating his childhood story, the author was self reflecting how it impacted his life. The context was set and this triggered another chain of thoughts in my mind. I stopped reading the book and focussed on my thoughts. I was in 6 years flashback of my life.
The Flashback story
I realized the truth behind the Saying “ Everything happens for a reason”. I was into my hard days of life where I was struggling with medical issues. I had to undergo a surgery and I had been delaying it for almost 2 years for no reasons but a fear what if it does not go well due to the congenital issues I was having. Instead of consulting a trust-worthy medical specialist who could do the surgery, I was looking for alternative ways to avoid surgery and incurring heavy financial and mental setbacks. It was because another doctor had warned me against getting a surgery done due to the natural complications that arise due to my congenital issues. I was sort of cursing my destiny and blaming myself that it is because of me. I should have taken care of my body and health well to ensure that I could have avoided this day. It was creating more worries for me and I was further deteriorating my health.
After spending around 21 months trying to treat myself with alternative medicines, I realized it was not working. The alternative medicine practitioner herself seems to be confused when I asked certain questions. Those were defining moments for my life.
I was deep in my thoughts about my childhood life trying to figure out why it could have happened to me. I was in my late thirties when I was thinking about 20–30 years back in my life. These were very faded memories of my life and they were somehow becoming clearer. My parents and uncle used to carry me to number of doctors and hospitals finding solutions to my congenital condition and all the visits were nothing but check ups and giving some doses of medicines and advice but no solution. I was too young to understand.
I suddenly, recalled a childhood day, when I would have been of apprx 8 years age. When I was playing outside a room in my home and my uncle and dad sitting in the room. I overheard my uncle telling my father that “He will have to undergo a surgery when he grows up”. I was not sure this was about me but there was none else in the room and there was no other discussion before this which could have given me confidence that It could be something else. Anyways, I heard it and life moved on.
Back to back I also recalled, another day in my early twenties where I could not join a profession due to this problem of mine. It was a hard time for me. The gentleman who gave my report to medical board, later told me in private that I will have to undergo a surgery at the age of 40 years. I was even more worried at this time. He mentioned later, not to worry, it will be alright. It was a sort of God sent message to me.
Whooa….!!!!!
Immediately, I started feeling lighter. I realized this was not something for which I should blame myself . This is something was destined to happen and I am unnecessarily destroying my health and my confidence.
I mustered the courage to face the reality. I must seek support from the right surgeon who would have handled such complications and surrender to the destiny. Fast forward I did what I was supposed to do and faced the bull by its horns.
Back to current day
Suddenly, today, while reading the very first page of the book mentioned above, I realized what was the relevance of these two incidents of my life. They may not be important but they were the light posts to me when I was struggling with most critical decision of my life. Decision that had the power of jeopardizing my life as well as that of my family. It had the power of undoing whatever I had done and became by that day.
These events were flashback to my conscious mind when they were needed the most and definitely a destiny’s play for me to be ready for this crucial decision. Everything happens for a reason.
The powerful questions, the author was asking himself, were the trigger point for me to reflect back and help me realize the power of right trigger points.
Today, I thank the days when those two incidents happened and they were played back to me.
I appreciate the power of these questions the author uses to deep dive with into his life!!! These give us the opportunity to heal the wounds of our life and become a better human being.
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